Are you the type to avoid any type of social situation just so that you can have some "me" time? Chances are you are a introvert just like my husband and I. We put off getting married for years because the thought of being the center of attention as an introverted bride felt so overwhelming. While my husband and I love each other very much, we couldn’t warm up to the idea of hosting a big party with all our friends and family in which we were the guests of honor. Eventually, we did get married. And thanks to a dear friend and amazing wedding planner, we got to celebrate our union our way. If you’re an introverted bride like me, here are a few tips for planning a wedding you’ll actually adore.
Remember it's YOUR Big Day
Everyone knows what a wedding is “supposed to be.” All your friends and family are there, you exchange heartfelt vows, you dance as man and wife, you toss the bouquet while Beyonce plays. Bing, bang, boom -- the templates literally write themselves. But for many introverts, those wedding traditions can practically induce hives! Remember, this is your wedding, so plan the day around things that will make you happy!
If you can’t stand having hundreds of eyes on you, opt for a smaller wedding. If the thought of dancing in front of people makes you want to hide in your room, don’t do the first dance! Does walking through a well-manicured garden set your mind at ease? Decorate your space with beautiful flower bouquets (if you don’t know what flowers to use, Kremp has a really helpful guide). While wedding traditions may be the standard fare, you can stay from the beaten path if it makes you happier. After all, it is your big day!
Let Your Party Do The Talking
They say that opposites attract, and that means that every introvert has an outspoken friend. For me, that friend was my sister and Maid of Honor. She and I have always been close, and she can tell at a glance when I am happy and comfortable -- and when I’m not. Thankfully, she was willing to step up in those uncomfortable moments and do some of the talking for me.
Whether you’re welcoming guests to your bridal shower, bargaining with the caterer, or ordering the groomsmen around, a friendly extrovert can be the best weapon in an introvert bride’s arsenal.
Ditch The Sweetheart Table
The “Sweetheart Table” was designed to give you and your spouse some quality time during your reception. It’s also the easiest way for your guests to gawk at you all night. If you’re like me, being set apart with all eyes on you is the farthest thing from a romantic dream. This is why I, like so many introverted brides before me, did away with the sweetheart table.
Instead of sitting alone with you and your new spouse, consider a table for the whole wedding party. Instead of setting that table on a stage or platform above your guests, place it in the mix with everyone else! This way, you won’t feel all those eyes on you throughout the dinner and speeches portion of your reception. You can simply relax and enjoy yourself!
Schedule Some Wedding-Day “Me Time”
I would say that this, without a doubt, is the most important tip for an introverted bride. Introverts thrive on solitude and introspection and tend to be sapped of their energy in social situations. A wedding is one of the most social situations around so it’s no surprise that many introverts find themselves worn out after their big day.
Make sure you schedule a little time for yourself, or at least for you and the love of your life. Take some time to meditate and take it all in before the ceremony begins, take a beat between your wedding and reception, or even duck out of the party early so you can catch your breath. Give yourself time to recharge and really enjoy your wedding. It is, after all, the happiest day of your life!
- Naomi Shaw
Naomi Shaw is a freelance writer from Southern California. She loves writing about home decor, gardening, weddings and DIY projects. When she’s not writing, she loves to spend time with her husband and three children. You can follow her on twitter @NaomiJShaw